100 Things

Updated 07-07-14

More than you ever wanted to know…

  1. I posted my first blog entry here on June 14, 2006
  2. I was born in Kentucky
  3. My parents were NOT related (bad Kentucky joke)
  4. I grew up in a very religious home
  5. I started working part-time when I was 13, full-time at 18
  6. I love books
  7. My favorite hobby is gardening
  8. My partner is seven years younger than me
  9. We have been together for 9 years
  10. I believe homosexuals should have the right to marry
  11. I would marry my partner in a heartbeat
  12. I would like to have children, but don’t think it will ever happen
  13. We have three cats indoors (Blu, Twinkie, & Macy Gray) and one cat outdoors (Mama Puss)
  14. I participated in Hands Across America as a child
  15. I have seen Cher in concert 9 times
  16. I loved Michael Jackson and will love him forever
  17. I only got to see him in concert one time
  18. We have a Honda Civic and a Ford F150
  19. Our home sits on just under five acres of land
  20. I love technology
  21. But I’m also scared of it, because it can take over your life
  22. My parents divorced when I was 25
  23. It still hurt
  24. I have a niece and 2 nephews
  25. I was in New York City on 9/11/01
  26. It was the scariest day of my life
  27. I believe most politicians are self-serving and devious
  28. I have been to Germany
  29. And Canada
  30. And over thirty states
  31. I want to visit California
  32. And Oregon
  33. I’m terrified of flying
  34. I love roller coasters
  35. And skyscrapers
  36. I watch a lot of movies
  37. I have taken only two college courses
  38. I believe everything that has happened to me was for a reason
  39. I’m still trying to figure out what that reason is
  40. My blood type is frozen yogurt
  41. I don’t believe in credit cards
  42. I was named after my dad, but I look more like my mom
  43. I sometimes get called “ma’am” on the phone
  44. It used to make me angry, but now it just annoys me
  45. I still have three living grandparents
  46. I wish I had more muscles
  47. I love birds
  48. I used to beg God for a set of wings
  49. I don’t like speaking in public
  50. I was once hospitalized for a suicide attempt
  51. I despise smelling cigarette smoke
  52. I drink occasionally, but don’t get drunk
  53. Music is one of my favorite things in the world
  54. I rarely ever laugh out loud when I’m alone
  55. I tweeze my eyebrows
  56. And bite my fingernails
  57. I wish my arms weren’t so hairy
  58. I like bubble baths
  59. And rain
  60. And flamingos
  61. My favorite clothing brand is DKNY
  62. Ecclesiastes is my favorite book in the Bible
  63. I am a liberal
  64. I think Jesus was a liberal
  65. I have never cheated on a lover
  66. I used to smoke pot, but had a really bad experience with it
  67. I still think it should be just a legal as alcohol
  68. I like it very cold when I sleep
  69. Spooning is my favorite sleeping position
  70. Music makes me cry sometimes
  71. I am terrified of severe weather
  72. My favorite soda is Dr. Pepper
  73. I like the ocean, but I’m scared of water and the things that live in it
  74. I believe in extraterrestrials
  75. I can’t figure out how space has no beginning or end
  76. It makes my head hurt when I think about it
  77. Sometimes I don’t listen very well
  78. I’m the only gay guy at work (or am I?)
  79. I came out to my family in 1994
  80. I email my senators
  81. I am a very loyal person
  82. But not blind
  83. I was raised without television, movies, or sports
  84. I still don’t like sports
  85. My favorite season is Spring
  86. I have never been arrested
  87. I don’t have any tattoos
  88. Both of my ears are pierced twice, but…
  89. I never wear earrings, because my partner doesn’t like them
  90. I spend way too much money on Amazon
  91. I have a collection of miniature souvenir skyscrapers
  92. I love to be hugged
  93. Home is my favorite place to be
  94. I can pop one of my arms out of socket
  95. My sister nicknamed me “Barney”
  96. My eyes are so dark brown they look black
  97. I wish I could quit cursing, but it’s really hard
  98. I wish I had more faith
  99. I spend way too much time online
  100. I am proud of myself for coming up with 100 things for this list.

51 thoughts on “100 Things”

  1. Barney, It gives me great pleasure to read all your stuff. You are uncommonly intellegent. And honorable. And honest. And handsome. How did your Mom and I spawn such a creature? Go figure. Switched at the hospital? Anyway, I am so proud to be your father and I love you with all my heart. You deserve to be happy.

  2. I can attest that all families are dysfunctional. Some more than others. The key is putting the FUN in dysfunctional!

  3. @ Alyson,

    Well, we do have lots of fun most of the time. :)

    @ Michelle,

    I do have a great dad. Coming up with 100 took some time, but it was fun. You should try it!

  4. Mxara,

    I know that sounds like a contradiction, but it’s true! I guess the roller coaster being connected to the ground makes it feel safer to me, whereas the plane is 40,000 feet in the air.

    Another thing is that I’ve been riding roller coasters for years, so have little reason to fear them. I’ve only been on 4 jets, and two of them took over 8 hours to reach their destination. That may have been a little too much to start with. ;)

  5. i live at at the arse end of the world so i guess to get anywhere it is at least 13 hours so i have got used to flying … but i don’t like it

    i will never get used to the roller coaster ….
    more power to you … if you ever have a rollercoaster snap let me know

    regards mx

  6. Hi, I stumbled across your blog, and now I feel like I know a lot about you. As far as #13, don’t give up hope! It can happen. I thought I would never be a mom, and now “the best thing that has ever happened to me” is sleeping in his crib.

  7. Thank you for doing this! I completely ripped off your idea and did my own :)

    And, thank you for sharing these personal things with total strangers.

  8. i’m wondering if i could steal, more like borrow, your idea. because you know, there’s a commandment that i should not steal. may i? borrow your idea that is.

    it’s been a nice read, by the way.

  9. I don’t even know how i stumbled upon this, but I LOVE it.

    My site is very new and I am working very hard on it.

    Thanks for the giggles.

  10. I stumbled upon this doing some research on Ron Paul and his stance on don’t ask, don’t tell in the military and found one of the most civil and interesting discussions I’ve ever read on the web!

    Kudos to you, Brian and to the people replying on that thread!

    Love this 100 things about you; I’m from Kentucky too, know SunDrop (lol!) and my eyes too are so dark brown, they appear black.

    If you want to “marry” your partner, have a civil union. Don’t let the gubmint tell you what you can and can’t do. It’s your body, your life.

    And don’t feel inferior; love yourself first,, the rest will follow.

  11. I laugh out loud so much, people wonder if there is “something wrong?”

    —Or maybe—“Is she up to something?”

    I’ve had people stand up in restaurant booths, and peer around to see what was going on –“over there” (you guessed it—me laughing)

    I laugh the most in the morning. Nothing has gone wrong —yet.

    Life is good when the Looney Toones are on.

    You guessed right again, I still watch cartoons.

    My cat makes me laugh, when he falls alseep on the arm of the chair—then falls off!!! I roar for a full 5 minutes on that. You would think he would sleep in the seat after repeated falls. I have faced the fact that my cat may be a slow learner. Anyway, good for a daily 5 minute laugh.

    I laugh every day when I try to squeeze my butt into pants that I know are too small. It’s like I think the fat elf came in the night and sucked out 5lbs of fat out of my a – -.

    Life is better when we laugh. ( I think it burn calories too, )
    Live, Love, Laugh.

  12. Fat elf? LOL!

    There was a comedy club I went to a few times and their slogan was, “You’ll laugh your A_ _ off”. We always joked that we should stay for both shows!

  13. Great list.
    ALL politicians are self-serving in my opinion.
    Also, gay men & women should have ALL rights like marriage etc..
    The faster we become a trusting respectful society the better for all of us.
    No one can stop 2 guys or 2 girls falling in love if that’s the way it has been set up by Nature/God/The Great Hairy Camel!

    Good luck to ye wee man,(popular Glasgow phrase) and thanks for the site.

    Glasgow, Scotland, UK.

  14. I just stumbled upon this blog, looking up stuff about Ron Paul. I think this list is great. And I hope that you don’t give up on having children so easily, because you sound like you’d be an amazing father. It is possible, I promise!

  15. Life is good when the Looney Toones are on.

    You guessed right again, I still watch cartoons.

    My cat makes me laugh, when he falls alseep on the arm of the chair—then falls off!!! I roar for a full 5 minutes on that.

    I’m with you on that, Kelly!

  16. I found your blog through bosquechica.

    I loved that your dad commented. I write a blog with a blogging partner (I’m in NM and she’s in MN), and her mom comments on our blog a bunch. It always touches my heart.

    Roller coasters are wonderful. I hate to fly but do it all the time.

    My brother lives in the house where I grew up. Roots is good.

  17. Brian,
    I read your main-page essay, then printed a copy that I am going to give to a serious homophobe I know. I just don’t know why they can’t leave us alone and SHUT UP about it.
    I enjoyed reading your list – I love your sense of humor.
    You seem to be doing OK – keep it up. All best wishes to you and your partner.

  18. Oh my God I am glad I am not the only one that 75 and 76 get to. I just can’t comprehend it although I know it is there! It freaks me out if I think about it to much.

  19. I actually left your page (I found it while surfing) and came back a day later. Two things brought me back. One, on your front page you said you are trying to reconcile your faith with your sexuality I find that refreshing. I am not close to any gay people (at the moment,) but many of the ones I have met, and those who are shown on T.V. tend to be militant and anti-Christian (Gee, I wonder why? Maybe it’s the militant, anti-gay Christians?)
    The second thing that brought me back was in your “hundred things about myself.” You struggled to find 100, but I bet people who know you could help you add to the list. Some people who don’t know you will boil you down to one word: gay. How sad that is. I would hate to be boiled down to one word. (Actually, I probably am. Having five kids, that word is “Mom.”) On the surface I’m about as different from you as could be; middle-class, middle-aged Mom, Grandma, etc. I do love birds, though, which was, believe it or not, what made me keep thinking about you. (Are the birds in Texas more interesting than the ones in suburban Southern California?) Dig deeper, and I find I have lots in common with you. (I’m a moderate-liberal in a far-right{think KKK} area. I believe Jesus was a -gasp- communist!) I think there are more than 100 facets to me, as well! Like you, I struggle with my faith. I am no more, or less, sinful than you are in the eyes of Jesus, just because I’m heterosexual. My sins are between God and me—and so are yours. Bible-thumpers will say that homosexuality is a sin, and that’s all that’s important. I say that’s none of their business. I do say that God will never leave you or forsake you. (Hebrews 13:5)

    P.S. I also hate being called “ma’am, but for a different reason. I don’t *feel* like a ma’am!

  20. @ Square Peg: Thank you so much for your lovely comment! We all have quite a bit in common if we only take the time to get beyond our differences to find them.

  21. I don’t know you. I’m not sure how I landed on your site, but it was by way of thom browne, then skyscrapers, the the buraj dubai, then 100 things about you. and I read them all and you sound like a nice chap! Cheers! Sam in Seattle

  22. Brian, you’ve done it again…inspired me to entertain…lol. Since I know that you don’t mind other people doing their ‘100’ list, I thought I would let you know that I’ve done it as well and it’s therapeutic. Thanks for sharing!

  23. Wierd but you sound like the twin I never had:)except I am not gay have a wife and two kids,so I am not the only gay guy at work. Don’t tweeze my eyebrows.. don’t live in Kentucky and don’t have a niece just two nephews but the rest we’re pretty much similar.

    P.S: You should be proud of this list! and yourself for being all the things in the list.

    Ciao Tim

    1. Hi Preston,

      I enjoy receiving comments and usually try to respond whenever possible. As far as the questions you asked… my partner likes to remain anonymous (as do I to some extent), so I just refer to him as “Honey” when I write. You can learn much more about me by perusing some of my other post and pages. I briefly touched on suicide in my coming out story (one of the pages linked across the top of this page.) Thanks for stopping by and commenting!

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