On a daily basis

You know how conversation often follows a strange, yet interesting path between related topics? Well, some fellows at work and I had one of those conversations this morning at break.

I started it by talking about the new movie, Disturbia, that is playing at our local cinema. You know, the one about the kid under house-arrest who witnesses a murder in the house next door?

That led to talking about wearing ankle bracelets, which led to Martha Stewart, which led to talking about Martha Stewart sucking the blood out of David Letterman’s cut finger on The Late Show. That’s where the conversation took a rather unexpected turn.

Me: “That’s gross. I wouldn’t even do that to (insert partner’s name here).”

Co-worker: “Well, I wouldn’t suck a (insert slang word for male genitalia here).”

Laughter ensued, but not from me. I’m frankly sick of the childish, homophobic remarks that are made to me on a daily basis.

I have to wonder if he thinks his wife is gross or sick when she performs the sex act on him that he seems to have so much disdain for? Probably not.

Author: Brian

Blogger. Bookworm. Michael Jackson fanatic. Lives in Kentucky with partner of 12 years and three fabulous felines.

7 thoughts on “On a daily basis”

  1. I’m a hag from way back. I don’t live my life well without a close circle of gay men. I don’t know why for sure? I’ve never mentally or emotionally dissected the reasons why. I’m just comfortable. We have fun, we have candid mature conversations. Life for me, is just better.

    I wish more people would understand. Differences. For me, to know a gay man, is to love a gay man.

    Enjoyed your post.

  2. Even though sex is woven into nearly every aspect of American culture, even though porn is a billion dollar industry and shows no signs of letting up, we are still incredibly prudish and fearful when it comes to matters of sex and sexuality. (This is not news.)

    Hold a mirror up to homophobia and you’ll see that it really reflects the uneasiness, guilt, and shame of straights. As a heterosexual woman I say this to my brothers and sisters who have issues with folks who are GLBT: Wanna feel better about someone else’s sexuality? Begin with feeling better about your own!

    One of these days America will move out of junior high thinking and will grow up. We have to be patient…and vigilant.

  3. You could’ve always said, “Well, I wouldn’t go near a (insert slang term for woman’s genetalia here).

    On another note, I kinda want to see “Disturbia”. Don’t know if I’ll get to or not.

  4. What a jack ass!

    I’m sorry you have to endure this. People who don’t pay attention have no idea what the gay community has to deal with just to make it through the day. And they never will…and as a straight person, I just want to say, I’m sorry.

    I try not to be a jack ass. I try to educate the jack asses around me. But I’m still sorry.

  5. Karen,

    I agree completely. I’ve often heard it said that those who are comfortable with their own sexuality should have no problem with someone else’s.

    Naughty Heather,

    I appreciate your sentiment, but there is no need to apologize. You aren’t responsible for the ignorance of others. However, I will say “Thank you!” on behalf of gays and lesbians everywhere for trying to educate those around you. :)

  6. I have an acquaintance who would laugh and make fun of her own sexuality (she’s a lesbian), but got immediatly and drastically offended if anyone else decided to take a jab, no matter how slight. It was really difficult for us to tell where her “line” was, and thus, we ended up walking on eggshells and she ended up looking like a hypocrite for laughing at the same jokes that, the very next day, she would be in tears over. A huge fight ensued and she denied this, saying she was always completely transparent, which was not the case. My rule? Don’t make jokes about sexuality, period.

  7. Cturpen,

    I have no problem laughing at myself or even being the butt of the joke from time to time, it’s just gotten to the point that people feel free to make hurtful remarks to my face and then claim they were joking.

    I don’t mind close friends taking jabs at my sexuality either, but when it’s every single day it tends to get a little tiresome and I have to wonder if they aren’t revealing their true feelings. You know how they say that humor usually has an element of truth? ;)

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