Tolerating intolerance

As a liberal person living in very chaotic times, I am often expected to have an open mind about other religions and groups in order to gain more of an understanding of their culture. I sometimes find myself in a quandary about this.

Why should I be tolerant of a religion or culture that is inherently intolerant? It makes no sense to me. What respect do they deserve, if I am getting none in return?

Most major faiths (Christianity, Judaism, Hinduism) believe that homosexuality is wrong, but do not currently practice violence towards them. There is one glaring exception: Islam.

Several countries that have Koran-based governments not only despise homosexuals, but actively prosecute and murder them because of their lifestyles. There are many examples of this taking place on a regular basis around the world, with little or no coverage by the mainstream media.

So, again, why should I have tolerance for intolerance?

If I am going to respect another person’s right to practice the religion or lifestyle of their choice, then they should respect mine as well.

Isn’t it ironic?

I didn’t go to church this morning. There seems to be something holding me back, but I’m not sure what that something is. I have despised religions and denominations for a long time, mainly because of their unjust treatment of homosexuals. However, it’s ironic that after finding a church that is totally accepting, I am still having a hard time feeling like a true part of the congregation.

I suppose it’s just part of my personality; always feeling like I’m on the outside looking in, never fully accepted, never part of the “in” crowd, good at several things, yet not great at anything.

Another rather ironic fact is that I feel further from God than I have ever felt before, so going to church really isn’t accomplishing what I thought it would.

12 reasons gays shouldn’t be allowed to marry

NOTICE: This list uses sarcasm to point out the ignorance of arguments against same-sex marriage. It helps if you read it with a sense of humor. Just for the record, I am gay and support marriage equality for all.

  1. liberty_justice_gay_marriageHomosexuality is not natural, much like eyeglasses, polyester, and birth control are not natural.
  2. Heterosexual marriages are valid because they produce children. Infertile couples and old people cannot get legally married because the world needs more children.
  3. Obviously gay parents will raise gay children because straight parents only raise straight children.
  4. Straight marriage will be less meaningful, since Britney Spears’s 55-hour just-for-fun marriage was meaningful.
  5. Heterosexual marriage has been around for a long time, and it hasn’t changed at all: women are property, Blacks can’t marry Whites, and divorce is illegal.
  6. Gay marriage should be decided by the people, not the courts, because the majority-elected legislatures, not courts, have historically protected the rights of minorities.
  7. Gay marriage is not supported by religion. In a theocracy like ours, the values of one religion are always imposed on the entire country. That’s why we only have one religion in America.
  8. Gay marriage will encourage people to be gay, in the same way that hanging around tall people makes you tall.
  9. Legalizing gay marriage will open the door to all kinds of crazy behavior. People may even wish to marry their pets because a dog has legal standing and can sign a marriage license.
  10. Children can never succeed without both male and female role models at home. That’s why single parents are forbidden to raise children.
  11. Gay marriage will change the foundation of society. Heterosexual marriage has been around for a long time, and we could never adapt to new social norms because we haven’t adapted to cars or longer lifespans.
  12. Civil unions, providing most of the same benefits as marriage with a different name are better, because a “separate but equal” institution is always constitutional. Separate schools for African-Americans worked just as well as separate marriages will for gays & lesbians.


UPDATE: As everyone knows, same-sex marriage is now legal in the United States. Even so, this post from 2006 continues to be one of the most visited on my site. Although I didn’t know who the original author was when I first posted it, I recently discovered it was created by The Gator Gay-Straight Alliance at the University of Florida. Enjoy!