Last week I bought the gun. Yesterday I wrote the note. But last night I happened to turn on your show and just knowing that someday I might be able to go back into my church, I threw the gun in the river. My mom never has to know.
– a boy in Iowa
This email was the inspiration for a film making it’s debut at the Sundance Film Festival titled “For The Bible Tells Me So“. It delves into the Biblical interpretations that are used to condemn homosexuality, and explores lives that have been shattered by those condemnations. The filmmakers believe their film is inspired by God and I am looking forward to seeing it.
Here’s a excellent article from the Salt Lake Tribune that offers a more in-depth look into the documentary.
One of my coworkers is getting ready to be married for the fifth time. He’s running around the workplace beaming with pride, expecting everyone to be as elated about it as he is. While I would like to share in his joy, I just can’t feel anything but resentment knowing how strongly he feels about banning gay marriage.
It’s amazing to me that the same crowd that preaches family values and the sanctity of marriage doesn’t see a problem with multiple weddings and divorces, or the trail of broken homes and shattered lives of children left in the wake. Where is this so-called “sanctity” when vows aren’t being honored and unions last from a few hours to a few years at most?
Anti-gay conservatives are constantly using verses from the Bible to “prove” their viewpoints that homosexuals are sinners and damned to hell, but they never talk about the multitudes of verses dealing with God’s negative views of divorce and remarriage. It’s easy to justify something when you strongly desire it to be that way.
I guess the Cheyenne Indian proverb that says “Don’t judge a man until you’ve walked two moons in his moccasins” would apply in this case. If everyone who’s opposed to my lifestyle had to view the world through my eyes, they might see things a little differently.
As a liberal person living in very chaotic times, I am often expected to have an open mind about other religions and groups in order to gain more of an understanding of their culture. I sometimes find myself in a quandary about this.
Why should I be tolerant of a religion or culture that is inherently intolerant? It makes no sense to me. What respect do they deserve, if I am getting none in return?
Most major faiths (Christianity, Judaism, Hinduism) believe that homosexuality is wrong, but do not currently practice violence towards them. There is one glaring exception: Islam.
Several countries that have Koran-based governments not only despise homosexuals, but actively prosecute and murder them because of their lifestyles. There are many examples of this taking place on a regular basis around the world, with little or no coverage by the mainstream media.
So, again, why should I have tolerance for intolerance?
If I am going to respect another person’s right to practice the religion or lifestyle of their choice, then they should respect mine as well.
NOTICE: This list uses sarcasm to point out the ignorance of arguments against same-sex marriage. It helps if you read it with a sense of humor. Just for the record, I am gay and support marriage equality for all.
- Homosexuality is not natural, much like eyeglasses, polyester, and birth control are not natural.
- Heterosexual marriages are valid because they produce children. Infertile couples and old people cannot get legally married because the world needs more children.
- Obviously gay parents will raise gay children because straight parents only raise straight children.
- Straight marriage will be less meaningful, since Britney Spears’s 55-hour just-for-fun marriage was meaningful.
- Heterosexual marriage has been around for a long time, and it hasn’t changed at all: women are property, Blacks can’t marry Whites, and divorce is illegal.
- Gay marriage should be decided by the people, not the courts, because the majority-elected legislatures, not courts, have historically protected the rights of minorities.
- Gay marriage is not supported by religion. In a theocracy like ours, the values of one religion are always imposed on the entire country. That’s why we only have one religion in America.
- Gay marriage will encourage people to be gay, in the same way that hanging around tall people makes you tall.
- Legalizing gay marriage will open the door to all kinds of crazy behavior. People may even wish to marry their pets because a dog has legal standing and can sign a marriage license.
- Children can never succeed without both male and female role models at home. That’s why single parents are forbidden to raise children.
- Gay marriage will change the foundation of society. Heterosexual marriage has been around for a long time, and we could never adapt to new social norms because we haven’t adapted to cars or longer lifespans.
- Civil unions, providing most of the same benefits as marriage with a different name are better, because a “separate but equal” institution is always constitutional. Separate schools for African-Americans worked just as well as separate marriages will for gays & lesbians.
UPDATE: As everyone knows, same-sex marriage is now legal in the United States. Even so, this post from 2006 continues to be one of the most visited on my site. Although I didn’t know who the original author was when I first posted it, I recently discovered it was created by The Gator Gay-Straight Alliance at the University of Florida. Enjoy!