I can’t understand why people who don’t identify as homosexual are so concerned with issues like same-sex marriage and gay adoption. These things directly affect my life, not theirs. They have allowed the ingenious, politically-motivated Karl Rove to convince them that gay marriage will somehow detrimentally affect their own unions. They’ve allowed the right-wing, Republican-minded con men at Focus On The Family to persuade them into believing gay parents only want to adopt children so that they can indoctrinate them into the homosexual lifestyle.
Often, while browsing other blogs on WordPress, I run across very hateful (even hurtful) articles written about the evils and detriments of allowing gay rights. I usually ignore them, figuring it would make no difference if I responded with a comment. This morning was different.
I ran across the blog of a mother with two children who seems to have made it her life-calling to point out every advancement of the “gay agenda”. She quoted discredited work by an obviously-biased psychologist as proof that gay parents are not only substandard to their heterosexual counterparts, but are actually dangerous to the development of children. I simply couldn’t resist responding to that one.
Many studies have proven the views of this doctor to be incorrect. One recent Canadian study found that gay parents are just as good as straight parents. In fact, they even found that some children of homosexuals excelled in certain areas.
This doctor is clearly going against the findings and viewpoints of most of the medical and mental health communities. These organizations include the Child Welfare League of America, North American Council on Adoptable Children, American Academy of Pediatrics, American Psychiatric Association, American Psychological Association, and the National Association of Social Workers.
The American Anthropological Association released the following statement in 2004:
The results of more than a century of anthropological research on households, kinship relationships, and families, across cultures and through time, provide no support whatsoever for the view that either civilization or viable social orders depend upon marriage as an exclusively heterosexual institution. Rather, anthropological research supports the conclusion that a vast array of family types, including families built upon same-sex partnerships, can contribute to stable and humane societies.
If conservatives are so worried about the welfare of children, then they need to adopt some of the thousands of unwanted kids that are languishing in orphanages and foster care in this country. They might also consider taking a hard look at the consequences of divorce on the lives of children, since millions upon millions of children are being reared by one parent or across split households.
It is fairly common for homosexual partners to adopt children that would never be placed in homes under normal circumstances. Many of these kids are considered problem children or are infected with HIV/AIDS. All they need is love, and the gender or sexuality of the person that provides that much-needed love shouldn’t matter.
I think that people have a misguided view that homosexuals are somehow trying to indoctrinate children into the gay lifestyle. That’s absurd. If my same-sex partner and I ever adopt a child, I would hope that he/she would grow up to be heterosexual, so they would never have to endure the intolerance and ignorance that runs so rampant in the world today.
I can’t help but wonder what drives this woman (and many others) to devote so much of their time to something that has no affect on their lives in the least. I think it goes far beyond religion.
Thankfully, I have plenty of open-minded straight people in my life who realize that we aren’t out to destroy anything. We simply want to partake of the same joys and love-affirming rituals that everyone else does. It’s a shame that the elements of life that are among the most treasured and celebrated by humans – marriage and child-bearing – are considered by some to be exclusive to heterosexuals.